The marriage lines are
not a formality, and a little later i shall discuss this legal institution and
what it means. Discovering sexual compatibility before marriage is one of the
strong arguments raised by young people. They say, it is better to find out
that we are not compatible before marriage than after marriage.
Let me assure
you that sexual compatibility cannot be assessed or discovered as easily as you
think it can. It may take months or even years for two people to be adjusted
sexually. Some couples are lucky to find that they suit each other almost
immediately after marriage. Others take longer and some couples may take five
to eight or more years to become adjusted. It needs patience, love and
adjustment by both partners. Sexual compatibility is not to be found after two
or three experiences in the back seat of a car on occasional dates.
There must be
commitment , give and take, to ensure that compatibility exists. Further, what
happens when, after the first trial,
compatibility is absent? Does that mean that young men and women then go on
with this business of trial and error for compatibility, and you change
partners almost as often as Sunday comes? No, this is no approach to sex. In fact,
it is immoral, since sexual compatibility becomes an excuse for sexual laxity
and promiscuity , particularly in people who have no worth while values, and
who subscribe to what is called free love. “Love” should not, and cannot, be “free”
it is to have any value.
By : Anysource